Are Cell Phones Ruining Relationships?

Author: Michelle Ioannou, The Dating Game

As much as I love my iPhone, I hate it as well.

Yes, I love that I can talk to people however I want, whenever I want, especially those who I don’t get to see as often.

But, at the same time, I find it sometimes negatively impacting my relationships — both friendship wise and more. I’ll see a Snapchat story, and immediately get annoyed that I’m not part of that Snapchat story, or over the fact that a boy is with a person who I don’t like. And then it hits me… why am I letting something like Snapchat control my happiness?

But it’s not just social media. It’s also texting. I’ve found myself judging men by their texting styles, and honestly, that’s just absurd. Please, please, please, don’t end things with someone because of his or her texting style.

Yes, it’s one thing if they never reach out to you — you need to be with someone who cares about you and wants to talk to you. However, it’s an entirely other thing to judge someone based on if they use too many emojis or exclamation points or not enough emojis or not enough exclamation points.

Why is texting dictating whether or not we like someone? Why are our cell phones controlling our lives? Defining our happiness? This is all just stupid, and needs to stop.

If you have a good time with someone in person, and that person treats you right, that’s what’s important. Focus on that. Focus on how the conversation in real life flows, how it’s full of laughs, and what a great time you have together, not his texting or social media style.

Of course, again, if someone’s not texting you at all, that’s a red flag. If you’re told one thing, and then you see another thing on social media, that’s also a red flag. And it’s sad that we live in a world where we have to worry about these things, but unfortunately, these things happen. And they happen more often than not.

Maybe I’m just nostalgic for a different type of dating, one before cell phones. Or maybe I just need to start putting my phone down a bit more and focus on what’s really happening around me.

To My Boyfriend, I’m Grateful for Us

Author: Kristin Frappier, The Dating Game

To my boyfriend,

Thanksgiving is a time to be thankful for the people in your life, experiences you’ve had and memories you have shared. Right now I would like to take the time to give thanks to you, my boyfriend.

I am thankful that you are the one I sat across from at dinner just about six months ago. You have a universal acceptance for my different abilities, and for me as well. You brighten my day with just the sound of your voice. You make me laugh on days I just feel like I want to cry.

When we are together there is no obstacle we can’t conquer. You hold my hand when the road gets rocky. I try until I can fly with you, and I know I have nothing to lose because I know you will catch me. Anything we share makes me feel more alive and excited for what may come next.

My heart is happy, and the world’s beauty is more vivid with you in my life. You makes me feel as though I am on top of the world — not just by the things he does but by being the person that he is. I don’t know how I got so lucky or even how a chance taken turned into a dream come true, but to say thank you for everything would never be enough!

Instead I say I love you through every storm, under every night sky and in the glow of every setting sun. I am grateful for us!

Love, Me

 

This Thanksgiving holiday, I urge you to share your story of gratitude of your significant other. Does he brighten your day as well? Do you feel like the two of you can overcome anything together? This is the perfect time to remind your significant other of that, and to celebrate it, together. Write him a letter, just like I did.

Grateful for Us

Author: Kristin Frappier, The Dating Game

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Thanksgiving is a time to be thankful for the people in your life, experiences you’ve had and memories you have shared. Right now I would like to take the time to give thanks for my boyfriend Steve.

I am thankful that Steve is the one I sat across from at dinner just about six months ago. He has a universal acceptance for my different abilities. He brightens my day with just the sound of his voice. He makes me laugh on days I just feel like I want to cry.

When we are together there is no obstacle we can’t conquer. He holds my hand when the road gets rocky. I try until I can fly with him with nothing to lose because I know he will catch me. Anything we share makes me feel more alive and excited for what may come next.

My heart is happy, and the world’s beauty is more vivid with Steve in my life. Steve makes me feel as though I am on top of the world — not just by the things he does but by being the person that he is. I don’t know how I got so lucky or even how a chance taken turned into a dream come true but to say thank you for everything would never be enough!

Instead I say I love you through every storm, under every night sky and in the glow of every setting sun. I am thankful for us!

The Two Thanksgivings

Author: Chelsea Mulligan, The Dating Game

Over the last few years, Thanksgiving has become my favorite holiday — whether the reasoning is because of the food or because it’s the only time I technically don’t have to buy gifts for the celebration. Either way, it is a day to be surrounded by loved ones and nothing beats that.

As always, I am thankful for my family and friends, the roof over my head and my health. And every November, I realize how far I’ve come in a year or what has been at a stand still. The only obstacle that I find myself facing every year is: how can my boyfriend and I divide this holiday?

Each other holiday is much easier: Christmas Eve with one family, Christmas Day with the other. Breakfast with his mom on Mother’s Day, dinner with mine, etc. This isn’t our first Thanksgiving with one another, but now that I think about it, I don’t think we have ever spent an entire night together for this holiday. We have always gone our own ways, and that’s okay!

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So what should you do? Go with your heart. If you  enjoy spending the day with our respective families, do that. It’s okay, especially if there are no wedding bells ringing or official reason to compromise yet; go about our day the way we want to.

Yes, soon enough, you will have to choose between families or host a Thanksgiving of your own — soak up family time now. When the time does come where you have to pick, you need to do what’s best for you and your relationship. Either figure it out where you can venture to both sides in one day, or split the holidays entirely and spend one holiday with one side and another holiday with another side.

It is okay to put yourself first, even if it is a holiday that you would like to be surrounded by everyone near and dear to your heart. Traditions will always be there, and you will know when the time is right to start your own.

Plenty of Fish

Author: Kristin Frappier, Real Life Stories

For some people, a hero is given life because of a comic strip. For some people, a hero is given super powers because that’s how the story line goes in a cartoon. For me, I met my hero just by chance.

I met my hero when I stepped out of my comfort zone and into a new adventure. After some time of being single, I decided to test the waters of online dating. This new adventure started with messages, texts and phone calls with one person, and during these conversations we talked about nothing and everything all at once.

On May 22, 2016, I was the first to arrive to our first dinner date. We went to a place I have been at least a hundred times, but this time felt different and special. I remember feeling nervous but excited at the same time!

Before long, a brown haired, blue-eyed individual came walking towards me. As the date progressed I realized that the food was good, the conversation was great, and the company was the best.

My hero has a universal acceptance for the things that make me unique. It is no secret that I have Cerebral Palsy. It feels awesome to have found someone who wholeheartedly believes that I am just differently abled. We divide and conquer whatever comes. I have always been a positive person, but now I just feel as though I see the world in not just shades of color, but in those that make the world pop.

Every new adventure we experience together helps me learn just a little bit more about the man who has my heart. My love has made me laugh, smile and have a happy heart. This love is worth even more than any price tag I could give anything!

I have danced in his arms with no rhythm and even tripped over my own feet. No matter what, he makes me feel like I can fly. I don’t know how I got so lucky — all I know is I am thankful for where it all began, where we are and where we will go in the future.