Are You a Married Millennial? Here Are the Podcasts for You

Author: Kerrin Frappier, The Dating Game

It’s a tale as old as time — two people meet, they fall in love and eventually they might decide to marry.

For millennials, dating and socializing in the 21st century has its setbacks but also its advantages. Marriage for millennials is no different. One such advantage is the various outlets for advice and discussion available to millennials. Here are some inspiring, thought-provoking and down-to-earth podcasts married millennials should have a listen to.


hitchedAs is commonplace on many podcasts, this show presents its audience with new topics and guests contributors every week. Recent topics include: “dealing with resentment..”, “managing time and your marriage” and “how to improve your marriage with technology”.



I Do Podcast
I_DoCatered toward “young couples”, this bi-weekly podcast is brought to you by a married couple and the relationship experts they interview. They dive into such topics as “how Netflix can improve your relationship” and “dividing housework in a modern relationship”.




The First Year Marriage Show
1st_year_marriage.jpgFor those in their first year of marriage, there is a podcast produced just for you and your spouse! It chronicles common struggles newlyweds encounter such as moving in and living together, financial issues (i.e. student loan debt), establishing effective communication and family planning.



Millennial Marriage Podcast
cropped-mm-podcast-logo-1.jpgCould it get any easier? A podcast created and hosted by a pair of married millennials! Despite not having new episodes currently in production, the archive of older posts are full of moments any millennial (married or otherwise) could relate to.



#staymarried Podcast
staymarried.jpgThis blog is home to an author who is prepared to share the ups and downs of marriage in her podcast, and invites guests to share their experiences and guidance as well. The creator of the blog has also published a book on the same topic.




Save the Marriage Podcast
save_the_marriage.jpgWhen a marriage is facing hardship, Dr. Lee H. Baucom seeks to teach couples “how to save your marriage and improve your relationship.” This podcast focuses on personality conflicts that can effect communication and the importance of working on problems individually and as a pair.

Best Dating Podcasts for LGBT Millennials

Author: Mary Grace Donaldson, The Dating Game

There aren’t too many aspects of dating that don’t have their difficult points. Between first dates, figuring out the perfect profile for your dating app, longing for the dating world of another time and not giving in the pressure to date when you’re singlepodcasts lend a sympathetic voice from those who have been there.

Dating within the LGBT community — as a millennial, living in our own dating world that we’ve created — has its own set of trials and tribulations. Here are some of our favorite podcasts that understand the struggle.



The Heart 
According to one of its producers, The Heart “covers the triumphs and terrors of human intimacy, the bliss and banality of being in love, and the wild diversity of the human heart.” It is also listed as one of the “Top 12 Podcasts Hosted By Queer Women For Your Queer Ears” by An entire season in 2015 is dedicated to couples who either “decided whether to stay together or go their separate ways.”



Coupla Questions 
Another podcast earning a spot on the aforementioned Autostraddle list, the minds behind Coupla Questions “interview their favorite couples about how they fell in love and stayed in love.” Episodes feature two men who met while performing on a cruise ship and fell in love and two women who started out as friends but became something more, just to name a few.




Same Sex Dialogue  
While there aren’t any recent episodes of Same Sex Dialogue, it’s worth a listen. The show’s hosts cover current events and news surrounding the LGBT community, but other topics include “I Don’t Have a Clue Who I Married,” “Love at First Protein Shake,” whether or not you should be friends with your ex and gay parenting.



A Gay and A NonGay
This podcast addresses the issue of hate speech in our society right from the get-go. “A Gay And A NonGay challenges many of our differences head on and promises that no matter who you are, or what you’re into (Bruce Springsteen or Britney), love is love and gay and nongays can be friends,” the podcast intro states. Episodes are not limited to dating-related topics, but when getting into the dating realm of things, episodes include dating out of your comfort zone, questioning your sexuality and “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.”



While these podcasts are not specifically targeted to LGBT millennials, they apply to a wide range of age groups — including millennials. Their dating war stories are certainly ones that we can sympathize with.

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Are You a Single Millennial? These Podcasts Are for You

Author: Mary Grace Donaldson, The Dating Game

Fellow single millennials, gather around. While I am a firm advocate of the notion that it’s okay to be single (as far as I know, I will be for the foreseeable future) as well as the idea that you can be single and still celebrate love, it’s nice to know that there are other people out there who understand what comes with being a single millennial today. They understand the ideas that dating is different for millennials than it was for our parents, that dating roles for women in particular have changed and that millennials can also “date” on social media.

If you’d like to hear from more millennials on the world of dating as a single millennial, here are a few podcasts that offer such commentary:

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The Millennials Podcast

While not strictly for dating advice, The Millennials Podcast includes episodes on relevant topics for singles, from making fun of Valentine’s Day to how you aren’t necessarily “Forever Alone.” They talk “single life, dating, Tinder and how we actually like marriage.” I have a mind to send them an email with our round-up on dating apps other than Tinder…perhaps for their future use!

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Kinda Dating 

This podcast does not directly target millennials, but produces episodes that we can relate to, just based on the title. As we talked about when we discussed the nostalgia of dating, the idea of “talking to” someone or “we’re dating but we’re not” is (unfortunately) part of millennial culture. But host — and former MTV producer — Natasha Chandel (along with an impressive array of guest co-hosts) is able to make fun of it…while also addressing the nitty gritty of the issues of dating culture. Topics include “friends with benefits,” “Being Single and Owning It” and “Break-Ups: How to Heal.”



Short for “Define The Relationship,” DTR is sponsored by none other than Tinder, in partnership with a media company called Gimlet Creative. And right there in the podcast description, the masterminds behind DTR touch on an issue we’ve discussed through dating apps, websites, social media and just dating dynamics: “Technology has changed the rules of the game.” It also discusses “what it’s like to meet new people in an Internet-obsessed world.” For some of us millennials, that works — but for some of us it doesn’t, and we wish for another time that we never even lived in, and we believe that we shouldn’t only communicate via SnapchatDTR launched in late-2016 so there aren’t many episodes available yet — but topics include mixed signals and what happens when a friend runs your Tinder account.

Did we miss any of your favorites? Let us know in the comments!

Why Many Millennials in Nigeria May End Up Unhappy Adults

Author: #NAMB Guest Author, Real Life Stories


Recently, my friend Morris Ogbowu uploaded pictures from his college graduation on Facebook. Now, this is not a strange occurrence in our social media generation, but this one was special — and let me tell you why.

From 2010-2012, I studied Electrical Electronics Engineering at Rivers State College of Arts and Science (RIVCAS), and it was a very beautiful two years for me. Not necessarily because of the school or course of study, but because it was in those two years I finally discovered and strongly decided to follow my purpose, which has led me to where I am now.

Back to the story…so Morris was my classmate in RIVCAS and he was just a fun guy. I remember us bursting bars in class and talking about music, poetry and his mixtapes.

Mixtapes and Missed Tests
Usually most people who attend RIVCAS (and colleges generally around Nigeria) are those who are awaiting university admission or maybe hoping to go to the university from there, but don’t want to be idle at home during the period.

Morris missed classes and tests while we were in RIVCAS. At the time he didn’t look very serious, but in retrospect I can now understand that it was because he wasn’t very motivated—it wasn’t his fault. Of course, this is not to make a case for young people who miss classes and tests. But the truth is when people are not motivated about a certain cause, the first way they show it is through reluctance. It’s a normal human response.

I believe many young people are disconnected from school today for many reasons, but two are paramount. First, we haven’t found the right way to educate them. The system we currently use was built for a world that no longer exists.

When you watch TED talks by Sir Ken Robinson or Professor Sugata Mitra, you get a deeper understanding of this philosophy. When I spoke with Sir Ken Robinson last year on my podcast series, “The Stroll Live,” we also discussed this.

The second reason is the crux of this article—it is the reason I think many young people in Nigeria (and many other countries) will grow up to become unhappy adults—and it is that the current system doesn’t help many young people to discover and harness their talents, potentials, or gifting.

Morris would usually draw sketches or write rap verses and perform them to entertain the class. We would often share his mixtapes among ourselves via Bluetooth, and he would also ask for us to rate him.


The Search for Genius
Fast forward to the end of the story. Morris left RIVCAS before our Elect/Elect Class graduated in 2012, and after a while he told me he had moved out of Nigeria. But this was still not the solution. This is Morris narrating to me what happened after he left:

“ I got here and applied to Carleton University for Mechanical Engineering but couldn’t get in because the program was full. Then I got offered Computer Science and promised a spot in Mechanical Engineering the next year. The year came and I wasn’t shortlisted for a transfer because I didn’t do well enough in Computer Science. So I tried Computer Science again for a second year and nothing changed, I had no love for it or any intentions of spending my life as a programmer. I made good friends, though…”

So all this happened between 2012 and 2014. Nothing has changed. His experiences so far were almost like RIVCAS all over again. It was in the midst of this confusion he found purpose. Hear Morris:

“In September 2014, I registered for the third year. Then January came and I made the decision to drop all my courses and go back to my childhood love for art. Not nearly long enough, I exhibited my artworks all over the Ontario province and took that as a sign. Later in the year I researched and found out that a career as a professional Illustrator and Concept Artist was the right path for me so I enrolled and chased it. The first year I sat in a class amongst students who were familiar with what was going on but these were my first encounters with Adobe programs or digital tablets. It took me another year to crack through the program but I’m glad I stuck with it and tried again.”

The same Morris who was labeled a ‘slow learner’ or ‘not-intelligent enough’ by lecturers following his academic performance at RIVCAS turned out to be a genius who graduated with an outstanding portfolio for the media and design industry, because he finally found where he could germinate in his natural area of gifting—in the soil best for him!

What is the moral of the story? I don’t think the magic happened because Morris left Nigeria. There are many young people who thrive in Nigeria without necessarily having to leave the shores. However, my emphasis is on the fact that the path we have set our kids on—Nigerian millennials and those coming behind them—is usually one that prepares them to join the crowd rather than stand out in their uniqueness.


Morris working on his canvas

Everybody is a Star, Just Find Your Sky
I don’t have answers to all the problems in life. Don’t read this expecting to hear the perfect solution or anything like that. But one thing I know very well is that one way to be unfulfilled and unhappy is to try imitating the lives of other people — forgetting or being oblivious of the fact that we have our own gifting and uniqueness.

Education is gotten from two Latin root words: ‘educare’ and ‘educere,’ which means to “bring up” and “bring out” respectively. However most of the educators we have today are more interested in “putting in knowledge” and in some cases “flogging in” when the students don’t get it.

Also, I hope reading this piece hasn’t given you the feeling that the arts are greater than the sciences? Nahhhh, that’s not what I am trying to say. I know so many young people (naturally built for the sciences) who are doing very well and flourishing in their own soil.

My friend and fellow Port Harcourt Global Shaper, Ifeanyi Orajaka, is doing very well as a leader in Elect/Elect as he’s fulfilling our God’s command, “…let there be light…” for many rural off-the-grid communities in Africa. Oseni Oluwatobi has been moving around Nigeria and West Africa since we said “Happy New Year” in January, raising techies and teaching young people to code. These are just two examples in the sciences that I know personally, there are many more

My point is we cannot continue to prepare millennials for the future this way—without taking their purpose and passion into consideration. We are too smart to be reduced to just cramming stuff to score A’s and B’s. Okay, 100 years ago that was a great invention. Now? I don’t think it is enough. Who knows how many more Morris’ are just slowly dying away in our system. Held down, stifled, killed.

Their blood will be on our hands.

Editor’s Note: This is a version of a story that originally appeared on The Huffington Post

About the Author: 


Ebenezar Wikina hails from Kono in Khana Local Government Area of Rivers State, Nigeria. He is a digital journalist who is passionate about the role of new media in advancing the work of diplomacy and sustainable development. Ebenezar currently serves as Digital Communications/Research Officer at the Government of Rivers State Sustainable Development Goals Office. He contributes regularly on various local and international platforms such as; The Huffington Post, Ventures Africa, UNICEF Voices of Youth, City News Port Harcourt; and his writing has been featured on the United Nations Website, the World Economic Forum Blog, Agenda, CNBC Africa, to mention a few.On his globally-read interview column, The Stroll, which he started in 2013 with his mobile phone, Ebenezar has engaged over 120 global leaders and change makers around the world. In November 2014, Ebenezar organized TEDxYouth@OrdinanceRoad, the only TEDxYouth event in West Africa that year, and has previously volunteered for TEDxStadiumRoad, TEDxPortHarcourt and TEDxPortHarcourt Salon. In June 2015 he was one of the outstanding 80 youths and Global Shapers from around Africa selected to represent their hubs and countries at the 25th Anniversary of the World Economic Forum on Africa which held in Cape town, South Africa, where he was also a speaker at a public session on “technology and media consumption.” In June 2016, Ebenezar was elected Curator of the Port Harcourt Global Shapers Hub which has one mandate, to #ShapePortHarcourt. Connect with Ebenezar on Twitter @EbenezarWikina