Beauty and the Beast

Disney Movies Tried to Forewarn Us About the Future

Author: Michelle Ioannou, Entertainment

We all know that our beloved Disney movies are full of doom and gloom. Walt Disney lost his mother at a young age, which is why all Disney movies include a parent’s, or a grandparent’s, death in some way shape or form.

But, upon watching Disney movies as an adult, you realize that they’re filled with lessons on dating, life, adulthood, and much more. If only we had realized these things in our youth, maybe adulthood would’ve been much easier? Who knows for sure, but as they say, better late than never!

 

When Cogsworth blatantly showed us how fixing relationships really worked.

 

When Jasmine showed us that love should be the reason for marriage, not anything else, not even for money.

 

When Rafiki taught us all that no matter how hard we may try, we cannot in fact successfully run from our pasts.

 

When Genie tried to tell Aladdin that telling the truth is the only way to have a healthy relationship.

 

When Jiminy Cricket tried to tell us all that we’re going to face a lot of temptations in the future — ones
that we have to ignore and get through.

 

When we learned in heartbreaking fashion that those we love will die, our parents unfortunately included.
Death has no timetable, and can affect you at any age.

 

When Mulan explained why she felt the need to change herself — to be someone she wasn’t, in order to be accepted.

 

When Aladdin showed us the struggles of not having money, pretty much forewarning us all of
how much we will have to in fact work to pay off our student loans or our rent.

 

When Gaston showed us gender inequality at it’s finest.

 

When Buzz Lightyear told us that we will, in fact, be surrounded by idiots on a daily basis.

 

When Fairy Godmother tried to teach us patience, because miracles take time.

 

And of course, when Peter Pan forewarned us all that growing up does really suck.

Harley Quinn

Life Lessons from Harley Quinn

Author: Elizabeth Zarb, Entertainment

Wait, but who’s Harley Quinn and how can I learn from her? Well, she’s a DC Comics character who made her debut as the Joker’s henchwoman in Batman: The Animated Series. 

She quickly became a fan favorite, becoming one of the first comic book characters to originate on TV, and launching from screen to comics with her brash sense of humor, her crazy antics, and, of course, her love for “Mistah J.” Her popularity skyrocketed with Margot Robbie’s portrayal of her in 2016’s Suicide Squad. Now, what can she teach us?

Coffee is always a necessity.

In the 2016 movie, the first thing that Harley asks for when told she could have anything in her cell that
she wants is an espresso machine. A girl after my own heart, and I’m sure yours as well.
Coffee is always the priority. 

 

Solve problems by looking at them from a new perspective.



Mistah J wants the fish to smile? Just put Batman upside down and those frowns become smiles!
Only someone as insane as Harley could think of such a brilliant idea. And it shows us all that the
solution to problems can be found much easier than we realize.
Stop with all the overanalyzing

 

How to properly deal with catcalling.

Guys harassing you? Just pull out a bazooka and “blow them away.” 10/10 would
recommend. OK, not really, but she’s showing us we should all stand up for ourselves
when we’re not being treated right,or being treated in a way we like.
You don’t have to deal with catcalling, or anything, if you don’t want to.

 

Own your past and your flaws.

Upon hearing ex-criminal El Diablo’s tragic backstory, Harley shows little sympathy,
instead telling him to own it. She knows that your past mistakes shape who you
are as a person today, and there’s no use trying to escape the past.
Don’t dwell on it, use it to better yourself, and move on. 

 

Your environment can shape who you are.

Harley tries to give up crime, but because of her reputation as a villain she is unable to
assimilate into society. That same society throws her right back into her crime life.
(Granted, it was a misunderstanding that led society to reject her, but it’s all the same to Harley.)
Be careful who, where, and what you surround yourself with. It truly shapes you. 

 

Sometimes, love is worth it all.

In Suicide Squad, Harley willingly throws herself into a vat of chemicals to prove her
love to the Joker, showing us that yes, true love does exist, and the lengths
that you’ll go to for the person you love know no bounds.
While you shouldn’t have to go to such extremes,
be with someone you’d risk it all for.

 

But sometimes, the person you love isn’t worth your devotion.

The Joker and Harley’s relationship is known to be abusive, with the Joker often
causing Harley physical harm. Harley shows us that it’s okay to put yourself first,
and to leave an abusive relationship in order to save yourself.
Also, you never should have to deal with an abusive relationship in the first place. 

 

Sometimes your best friend is also your partner in crime (and in life).

Poison Ivy and Harley Quinn are best friends, with Ivy giving Harley an immunity to many
toxins when they meet. They run amok through Gotham City together (Ivy is driving the
car 
in the aforementioned catcalling scene) and eventually Ivy helps Harley leave
the Joker. 
The two go from best friends to girlfriends, and it’s often said that
if your girlfriend/boyfriend is your best friend, you’re doing it right.

 

Harley Quinn may not be a perfect character (she is a criminal, after all), but she is incredibly complex and involved in some of the most engaging story lines in DC history. She also has given us some very important lessons to keep with us throughout life.

Thrones

5 Timeless Life Lessons From Game of Thrones

Author: Danny Abriano, Entertainment

HBO’s massive hit, Game of Thrones, is a cultural phenomenon. There are many reasons for that, including the incredibly complex but addicting story, the performances of the actors and actresses involved, and the moments that make viewers gasp. But one huge thing with Thrones is that it resonates. While it takes place in an alternate world that would’ve been thousands of years ago had it actually existed, there are lots of themes that are timeless.

 

Love is love
In Thrones, love is love. Even if it’s between a high-born imp (his word, not mine) and a prostitute, an afflicted Knight and a Dragon Queen, someone who is already sworn to another and a woman he falls in love with via happenstance, or brother and sister. Okay, we’re drawing the line at brother and sister, though Thrones doesn’t. The point? In love, you need to go for it. Regardless of what anyone else thinks and regardless of the kind of person you have fallen for.

When it comes to power, size and gender don’t matter
There are more female characters on Game of Thrones who are powerful in mind, body, and actions than male characters who have the same traits. As is still the case today, which is absurd by the way, the female characters have to stand up for themselves and bust stereotypes along the way. Aside from the powerful female characters is the imp (again, his word, not mine), who may just be the smartest and most impactful character on the show.

Always think ten steps ahead
This can apply in any aspect of life, big or small. On Thrones, it could mean the difference between being stabbed in the back (literally) or surviving to live another day. In life, it could mean the difference between getting a promotion you’re going against a colleague for or being left in the dust. Thrones not only teaches us that things aren’t always what they seem, but that things can change in an instant. Don’t get left behind.

Humor is needed
Bracing for an invasion that might lead to your demise? Have a drink and laugh. Locked in a cell with a minuscule chance of ever seeing the light of day as a free person again? Crack a joke and smile. If Thrones characters can find humor during those times, we can do the same during much less stressful ones. Unless you’re actually facing an invasion or in jail (if you’re reading this from jail, at least you have internet access), try to inject a bit more humor into life.

Expect the unexpected
Life can change in an instant. And on Thrones, more important than what happens (assuming you survive what happens) is how you react and adjust after. On Thrones, it’s not about what happens to you that defines you, but how you respond. The same applies in the very real universe we live in.

I Decided

7 Life Lessons You Can Learn From Big Sean’s New Album

Author: #NAMB Guest Author, Entertainment

Perhaps the most important life lesson I’ve learned is that life is a perpetual lesson. What you notice in your outer world is heavily influenced by how your inner world operates.

Art is the perfect example. You and I can see the same painting, or listen to the same song, and have completely different reactions.

If my English degree taught me anything, it is to squeeze every ounce of meaning out of any art or media I consume.

I don’t consider myself a hip-hop expert by any means, but I love listening to the flows of highly talented lyricists who speak about real things. Big Sean is, in my opinion, one of those highly talented lyricists. His new album, I Decided , is filled with powerful messages. Here are seven life lessons that I parsed from Big Sean’s latest album.

“I spent my whole life tryin’ to find the light at the end of the tunnel ; should’ve realized it was inside ” – Light

Lesson 1: It’s so easy to let our happiness and fulfillment be dictated by “if-then” statements. “If I get this promotion, then I’ll be happy.” The reality that is fulfillment comes within. You don’t have to chase the light, you are the light.

“I realized countin’ money never feels as good as countin’ blessings; and a loaded mind is more dangerous than a loaded weapon”

Lesson 2: In our capitalist, materialistic society, we think of money when we think of success and happiness. This mindset makes it easy to forget to express gratitude by counting our blessings.

The second half of this couplet is a modernized version of the “pen is mightier than the sword” concept. In today’s age of information, knowledge truly is power.

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All I ever did was beat the odds ; because when you try to get even it just don’t even out” – No Favors

Lesson 3: How many times have you wished for Karma to catch up to someone you thought deserved to be taken down a peg? I know I’m guilty. This couplet is a reminder that this get-even mindset holds you back. Instead, convert any negative circumstances into fuel for beating the odds

“Yeah I got the force, but I don’t force nothin’. I do it for the love, I’m Forrest Gumpin”- Halfway off the Balcony

Lesson 4: Big Sean weaves together two cinematic analogies brilliantly in this couplet. In case you live under a rock, the references are to Star Wars and Forrest Gump respectively.

The lesson here is twofold. First, just understand how powerful you are. You are the force that makes everything in your life happen. With that being said, don’t force things to happen. Don’t force yourself into a career that doesn’t give you joy. Fulfillment is knowing when to use the Force like Luke, and when to simply enjoy the box of chocolates like Forrest.

“Been through the worst times to get the best back. Wishin’ for a time machine so I could jet back, to my all time low self and throw me a jetpack ” – Sunday Morning Jetpack

Lesson 5: This is a modern take on the “it’s always darkest before dawn” cliché, and one that really hits hard for me. There was a time in my life, however short it was, where I didn’t care if I died. Once I got out of that hole, life begin happening in ways I never thought possible.

I would love to go back and show my 21-year-old self what the future looked like so he could realized the last thing he wanted was to die.

“To get ahead, man you gotta make sacrifices.” – Sacrifices

Lesson 6: You simply cannot achieve success without sacrifice. The level of sacrifice is relative to the level of success you want. Massive success requires massive sacrifice.

“Focus on the inner me ; never on an enemy ” – Sacrifices

Lesson 7: There is nothing to gain from focusing your energy on other people. Focus on only what you can control and you’ll be a lot happier.

If there’s one overarching lesson to wrap up this article, it’s that life lessons can be found anywhere, if only you know where to look.

 

About the Author:

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Brett Pucino is a multi-passionate millennial blogger who loves to write about entrepreneurship, career advice, branding, and personal development. He is a regular contributor for ChelseaKrost.com and JustHaves.com, and is in the process of becoming a career coach under the guidance of Jay R. Lang of BreakthroughJobCoach.com.

When You Don’t Want it to Hurt

Author: Mary Grace Donaldson, Real Life Stories

There’s a big stigma surrounding “petty” today.

If you’re upset at someone for a reason you just don’t want to admit, you find yourself prefacing it with “I don’t want to be petty, but…” But sometimes, it really isn’t petty. Your feelings are legitimate.

I know what you’re thinking — where is she going with this? Is she about to be petty? Is she going to qualify why she’s being petty? 

I’m sharing this story because I want anyone reading this to know that you’re allowed to be sad and hurt by a situation…and it doesn’t make you “petty.” The situation may or may not change as a result of your expressing your feelings, and that’s okay — sometimes expressing how you feel is enough. And I’ve kept these feelings to myself for a few months now.

Over the course of your lives, millennials, I’m sure that someone who cares about you deeply — a parent, another family member, a workplace mentor even – has expressed to you that the friends you have when you’re young won’t necessarily be the friends you have when you’re older.

I’m willing to guess that you told that well-intentioned adultier adult how that won’t happen to you and your friends… and then, before you know it, it has. Sometimes it’s just a result of falling out of touch and it is, as they say, “no one’s fault.” And then there are other times when you can’t imagine why it happened.

Recently I found out that that I’m not as close to a childhood friend of mine as I thought I was.

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We’ve shared a great deal over the course of our lives. As we went through middle school we did everything together. We were in and out of each other’s lives during our college years, but we were good at picking up where we had left off. Sure, we’d both changed as people and developed different circles of friends, as we had differing interests and went to college in different places, but there were still jokes that never grew old. I believed that we’d truly be “those” friends forever.

Through a series of events, it became clear to me that we were not the friends we once were. I’ve talked about it with a few of those well-intentioned adultier adults in my life who were just as shocked as I was over the aforementioned events.

These feelings may seem petty to you, but I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t hurt and truly, deeply saddened by not only the situation but also by what it represents. First off, I want to know if I did something wrong, or did we just grow further apart than I’d realized? And then I found myself wondering if there was something “wrong” with me — why doesn’t she want me in her life?

I thought about our friendship over the years and wondered if there were clues. Had she been fooling me this whole time? Was I a chore to her? Had I just become too “weird” for her taste? There were stupid fights we’d had when we were younger, but none that would lead me to believe that she wanted to drop me like a hot potato when we were adults.

I’ve tried to act like “everything is okay.” But despite my best efforts, I have so many questions that I need answers to. I understand that people have “worse problems” and I take things personally, sometimes even when I shouldn’t. But after taking the denial route, I am admitting that I am hurt and scared that our friendship is either over, superficial or just plain not what I thought. And I don’t want that. I don’t want any of that.

Regardless of what the outcome is, I want you to know, millennials, that it’s okay to be sad and hurt with situations. Friendships are meant to be taken seriously, and if you’ve invested a lot in a friend, it’s normal that you’ll wonder what you’ve done, and you’ll want things to go back to how they used to be. And it’s okay to long for another time.

I’m not even going to sit here and claim to be over this whole situation… but I knew that I couldn’t hold my feelings in any longer.

And I don’t think that’s petty.