Memes. We love them. We save them. We tag our besties in them.
Images of animated frogs, beloved Muppets and favorite movie stars seem to be the perfect way to communicate frustration, disapproval and inside jokes. Especially for single millennials, there could be no greater tool to summarize our suffering and happiness (often at the same time) than memes.
Well, we’re all in this together… with a little help from these hysterical memes.
Those awkward attempts at flirting….
I don’t care what anyone says, flirting is hard, especially when you’re good at sarcasm and self-deprecating humor, rather than batting eyelashes and being the perfect blend of funny and warm. If you have the gift of flirt and the ability to make conversation about anything that comes to mind, bless you… and share your ways!
For many single people, trying to make yourself appealing to a person you are romantically interested in causes much anxiety. The one thing we must remember is: be yourself — be your snarky, messy, hardworking, driven, passionate, caring self (as you should when making friends, too).
Dating itself sucks
Dating is hard work. Especially when it feels as if you are hitting dead end after dead end. Maybe you’ve gone through a difficult breakup or you haven’t found your “person” yet. Know that whatever you’re experiencing, your frustration is valid. You deserve someone who will make you happy and appreciate you for the person you are… that is certainly worth waiting for.
In the meantime, there’s Netflix, friends, tacos and wine.
When your family keeps asking why you’re single
How many of us have been trapped at a family gathering, forced to listen to people ask you if you are “seeing anybody…” and if you want to get married or remind you that “you won’t be young forever?” This torturous guilt trip which often compares you to your happily coupled cousins and/or siblings does wonders for one’s self-esteem!
Even shouts of “you’re so handsome/beautiful!,” “anyone would be lucky to have you!” only makes you feel as if you really are doing something to put off potential suitors! Worst of all, you may feel you have to pretend these comments are helpful and do not bother you. But we all know they do.
When your social media is filled with wedding announcements, baby pictures and new relationships
In the age of social media, we are encouraged to only share with the world the best parts of ourselves. Seeing countless engagements, adorable newborn photos and sappy #WCW and #MCM posts all over every outlet does little to stop this trend of simultaneous over-and-under sharing.
That being said, we may not be able to appreciate the dedication, compromise and sacrifice it takes to make relationships work. While we may be sick of seeing these lovey-dovey declarations, it is imperative that we remind ourselves we are only seeing one side of a person’s life. We should not feel consumed by jealously because frankly, what we’re seeing is a filtered (don’t be fooled by those “no filter” tags!) version of reality. We should look up to the real relationships we see in every day life, the one’s that have made it through difficult times and are stronger because of it.
One is the loneliest number (sometimes)
We’ve all felt it: that sinking sensation that you are utterly alone and that no one would choose to spend the rest of their days with you. Now that we’ve admitted it, it’s so important to remember that you have a lot to offer and there’s a reason your friends, co-workers and family look up to you and enjoy your company.
Do not be discouraged when everyone around you is pairing up. You are simply waiting for someone worthy of you, your time and effort. Enjoy those weddings as a single person, and enjoy meeting other singles. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of!
Being single is kind of awesome
For those of us who are still single, we may complain about going on bad dates or getting no dates at all at times, but we also enjoy our independence. We can go out with our friends without the worry that we are leaving out someone and having one schedule to keep track of for important events sure is nice. We don’t have to share food or covers or worry about snoring. We can leave our homes a bit messy or keep them just the way we like them because we do not have to worry about someone else’s things.
This is the time to experiment and go on adventures! We “won’t be young forever” so why not take advantage of this free time? There’s that old saying “good things come to those who wait”… let’s make the waiting a little more fun!