As much as I love my iPhone, I hate it as well.
Yes, I love that I can talk to people however I want, whenever I want, especially those who I don’t get to see as often.
But, at the same time, I find it sometimes negatively impacting my relationships — both friendship wise and more. I’ll see a Snapchat story, and immediately get annoyed that I’m not part of that Snapchat story, or over the fact that a boy is with a person who I don’t like. And then it hits me… why am I letting something like Snapchat control my happiness?
But it’s not just social media. It’s also texting. I’ve found myself judging men by their texting styles, and honestly, that’s just absurd. Please, please, please, don’t end things with someone because of his or her texting style.
Yes, it’s one thing if they never reach out to you — you need to be with someone who cares about you and wants to talk to you. However, it’s an entirely other thing to judge someone based on if they use too many emojis or exclamation points or not enough emojis or not enough exclamation points.
Why is texting dictating whether or not we like someone? Why are our cell phones controlling our lives? Defining our happiness? This is all just stupid, and needs to stop.
If you have a good time with someone in person, and that person treats you right, that’s what’s important. Focus on that. Focus on how the conversation in real life flows, how it’s full of laughs, and what a great time you have together, not his texting or social media style.
Of course, again, if someone’s not texting you at all, that’s a red flag. If you’re told one thing, and then you see another thing on social media, that’s also a red flag. And it’s sad that we live in a world where we have to worry about these things, but unfortunately, these things happen. And they happen more often than not.
Maybe I’m just nostalgic for a different type of dating, one before cell phones. Or maybe I just need to start putting my phone down a bit more and focus on what’s really happening around me.