One thing I’ve learned since entering into this world of adulthood is the importance of knowing when to walk away. This applies to stepping away from your desk at work, putting the phone down before sending that text message, and unfortunately even to friendships and relationships. But one thing’s in common: it’s always much easier said than done.
It’s quite easy when you’re not in a rough situation to think to yourself “psh, I’ll never do that. I’ll just walk away and leave. Not worth my time, not worth my effort.” But then you’re in the situation, and it’s all so different.
How could my boss just send me that email when I’ve worked my ass off for months? How could my boyfriend tell me he’s no longer happy with me and he doesn’t know what he wants after three years? How can the person I thought was my best friend lie to me and treat me like complete crap?
Have you nodded your head yet? Chances are you’ve been in one of the above situations…or one extremely close to it.
And it’s hard, it really, really is –especially when it’s in terms of a relationship or a friendship. That person has been in your life for a while, and probably has left his or her mark. They were quite possibly a huge part of your life — the person you spoke to the most, thought you could trust with your life, the person who was there for you for everything…or so you thought. All it takes is one thing to happen, and all of that can be gone forever.
Don’t get me wrong, I am a huge advocate of trying to fix things. But, I’m also a realist. Things get to a point where there’s no fixing — or at least it seems like there’s no fixing, such as when the other person in this situation isn’t trying to work through things. There’s only so much hurt you can experience, and only so much you yourself can do, before you realize you need to just walk away.
Millennials, relationships of all kinds come and go. You see who your true friends are, and unfortunately you see who’s not. Boyfriends and girlfriends break up. You quit jobs. That’s life. But it’s important to know when to walk away — for your own health, for your own sanity, and for your own happiness.
I can only hope that the situation you’re currently in works out and that the other person in the situation with you, whomever that may be, is fighting for you like you’re fighting for him or her. But remember, you matter too. And if that person isn’t treating you right or fighting for you — whether that person be a friend, a significant other, or a boss — you need to do something about it. You need to walk away. You need to be happy.