Over the last few years, Thanksgiving has become my favorite holiday — whether the reasoning is because of the food or because it’s the only time I technically don’t have to buy gifts for the celebration. Either way, it is a day to be surrounded by loved ones and nothing beats that.
As always, I am thankful for my family and friends, the roof over my head and my health. And every November, I realize how far I’ve come in a year or what has been at a stand still. The only obstacle that I find myself facing every year is: how can my boyfriend and I divide this holiday?
Each other holiday is much easier: Christmas Eve with one family, Christmas Day with the other. Breakfast with his mom on Mother’s Day, dinner with mine, etc. This isn’t our first Thanksgiving with one another, but now that I think about it, I don’t think we have ever spent an entire night together for this holiday. We have always gone our own ways, and that’s okay!
So what should you do? Go with your heart. If you enjoy spending the day with our respective families, do that. It’s okay, especially if there are no wedding bells ringing or official reason to compromise yet; go about our day the way we want to.
Yes, soon enough, you will have to choose between families or host a Thanksgiving of your own — soak up family time now. When the time does come where you have to pick, you need to do what’s best for you and your relationship. Either figure it out where you can venture to both sides in one day, or split the holidays entirely and spend one holiday with one side and another holiday with another side.
It is okay to put yourself first, even if it is a holiday that you would like to be surrounded by everyone near and dear to your heart. Traditions will always be there, and you will know when the time is right to start your own.