It’s Okay to Be Single

We understand the pressure to settle down – but we share why it’s okay not to give into that pressure and why it’s okay being single.

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There, I said it, it’s okay to be single.

As a single 25-year-old — scratch that — as a single 25-year-old from a very stereotypical Greek family, I get the pressure of being single. My two childhood friends are both engaged and/or married. My little cousin, well a month younger than I am, is engaged. My grandmother just the other day had a talk with me about how by the time I get married — if I get married — she won’t be here anymore.

Yes, I get the pressure. But I promise you, it’s okay to be single.

Why is it okay to be single? It shows you’re not settling for less than you deserve. No one should. No one should ever feel pressured into a relationship for the sole reason that people are on their case to get married. That’s just a recipe for disaster (in most cases, anyway).

If you’re single, it’s most likely because you haven’t met your person yet. That one person who completes you. Who treats you how you deserve to be treated. That one person you’re excited to spend the rest of your life with. And, assuming you want kids, the one person you want to raise children with.

Don’t settle. Especially don’t settle because you feel pressure to get married.

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Why is it okay to be single? Because you’re pretty awesome on your own. You don’t need a man or a woman to define you. You control your own happiness — cliche, but true.

If you’re single, you can do what you want to do, when you want to do it, without having to think about anyone else. If you want to go on that vacation, go for it. If you want to go on a shopping spree, spend the money (assuming you’re being financially savvy, of course). If you want to put all of your energy into growing into your career, you can.

Now, I’m not saying you can’t do any of these things with a significant other — please don’t get me wrong. It just tends to be a lot easier to do when you don’t have to think about anyone else’s feelings or thoughts.

It’s okay to be single.

Why is it okay to be single? Times have changed. Women aren’t going to college anymore solely for their MRS degrees. No longer must a man and a woman wed in their early 20s and start a family. No longer are women solely being housewives or needing to have all of their children by the age of 30.

Marriage isn’t as expected as it once was. In fact, the marriage rate continues to decline in the United States.

It’s okay to be single. Live your life. Be happy. Have fun. And don’t let anyone pressure you otherwise.

8 comments on “It’s Okay to Be Single”

  1. I will be 30 next April and I can honestly say I thought by now I would be in a relationship. I spoke with a friend today who told me a story about her recent bride who got married at 46 and it was her and husbands first marriage. They are extremely happy. There should be no “ticking time clock” and only today and after reading this can I say, I get it.

    Great post, Michelle

    1. Hi Tracy – thanks for sharing this! I’m so glad you enjoyed the post and can relate to it. I’m glad you get it 🙂

  2. As a mother of a 26 year old girl who is engaged I have to say, you represent the changing times very well in your article. I agree with you and I said similar things to my daughter while she was growing up. She was just fortunate to have met her perfect match very early in her college career and they evolved together and are building their careers and life while still remaining the person they want to be as individuals.
    Enjoyed your article and it is something many young women live with every day so I hope it helps to validate some of the “still” single young ladies out there!

    1. Hi Cindy, Thank you for your beautiful comment! I appreciate the kind words, and congratulations on the engagement of your daughter!

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